Dealing with Grief…You don’t have to go it alone
Prince George, B.C. – It is a subject many would rather not discuss, but it is one that needs to be talked about.Grief, and how to navigate through the emotional journey brought on by loss, is foreign territory for most of us. ” We all go through it differently” says Donna Flood, Executive Director of the Prince George Hospice Society. “That is one of the misconceptions about grief, it changes who we are, we don’t necessary ‘get through it’ because there is no end. What it does is, it creates a new reality for us, so what we try to do is walk through that and try to get to that new reality.”
Tomorrow, many members of the community in Prince George will be attending one or both of the funerals set for two well known members of the Prince George community.
The service for Kenny Carpino is set for 11 Saturday morning at St. Mary’s Catholic Church, and the service for Matt Pearce is slated for 1 in the afternoon at the Westwood Mennonite Church.
Both men died unexpectedly in separate incidents last weekend, sending a shock wave through the community.
“Grief is different for everybody and everyone needs to be entitled to grieve in the way that is best for them” says Donna Flood.
The Prince George Hospice Society does offer a number of grief programs says Flood “Our Tea Time for the Soul, is about people who are going through the same journey, being able to talk, being able to participate, being able to talk about the people they lost and its having that safe environment in which to do it”. There is also a special Grief and Grub for Guys “Men almost go into themselves and go underground with grief, so through Grief and grub for Guys, it’s an opportunity for men to get together and through food and conversation, get some tips on how to grieve and bring some normal back into their lives, or their new normal.”
While each person will experience loss in a different way, Donna Flood says there are some things a person should keep in mind as they try to deal with grief:
- Your mind may feel vague or empty, don’t try and make decisions don’t make any large life changing decision for about a year
- You will have physical effects, Make sure you care for yourself, get nourishment, exercise and rest
- Do not apologize for your feelings, they are your feelings and there is no right or wrong way to feel
- You will experience joy and happiness, don’t feel guilty
- You do not get over it ever! It does become less painful
“Remember it is because we dare to love, that we grieve,… let’s keep loving.”
For full details on the various programs offered by P.G. Hospice , you can contact them directly at 250-563-2551